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The Practice of Forgiveness

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If you are determined to move forward into a greater life for yourself, but you are harboring grudges or resentments towards another, forgiving is essential. I know it’s not easy. I know you may not want to do it; I didn’t. I had heard people promoting the value of forgiveness for many years before I decided to take a serious stab at it.

After all, “He did it to me; why should I forgive him?” He needed to suffer, and I wasn’t going to let him off the hook, no way; he needed to pay! The problem is, he wasn’t paying for it. I was. In reality, he probably had no idea the series of events still played over and over in my head and he’d long forgotten them, so it certainly didn’t torture him at all.

I was the one paying for it, wrapping up good energy on past events that truly had no significance in my current or future life. And that’s why we need to forgive; we need that valuable, awesome energy to help us move forward, not hold us back. It doesn’t make the person’s actions okay or acceptable; it’s a matter of taking back our energy and our Power. Take your Power back and get rid of that icky energy.

There are many ways to start a forgiveness practice. What I’ll share here are three possibilities using prayer beads or malas. There is no magic number of times you need to do it; you just do it until you feel you’re done. It might take one day, two weeks or two months, but eventually the charged energy goes away when you recall the person. None of these three practices is any better than the other. Do the one that feels best for the situation.

First Option: This is particularly useful when you really wanted someone to change. Imagine the person in front of you, as if you are speaking directly to them. Speak sincerely. “Joe, I forgive you for not being the person I wanted you to be.” It allows for a space of letting them be them, and not someone they’re not. Repeat it over and over until you feel a shift.

It is also sometimes useful to combine it with the second option.

Second option: Again, imagine the person in front of you, as if you are speaking to them. Speak sincerely. “Joe. I love you, I bless you, I forgive you, I release you.” That’s it, over and over.

Combined it is even more powerful: “Joe, I forgive you for not being the person I wanted you to be. I love you, I bless you, I release you.”

The third option is my personal favorite as it helps me recognize that the faults I see in others are also my own, which helps me come around quickly to compassion or understanding for that person. Again, imagine talking directly to them. “Joe, I forgive you and myself for being ignorant (Choose appropriate quality). I love you as I love myself, for God is the love I am.” This also turns the situation over to the Divine Source that allows love to flow to and from all without judgement.

I’d challenge you to just try one for a week if there is someone that really triggers you. You don’t have to fully forgive them, but just see if it frees anything up in you to be open to starting the process.

Are you willing to be open to moving toward your greater life?

 

Making assumptions leads to misunderstandings and lost opportunities

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If we don’t know, and we assume something, we can be way off base, losing opportunity and wasting energy in the process.

If we are a little confused by what someone has told us we should ask for clarification, but instead we often make an assumption. When we assume incorrectly, while at work for example, we can waste much time doing the wrong job or gathering worthless information. If we had asked for clarification, we would have known up front what the intent of the conversation was. So why don’t we ask?

Our brain is quick to fill in missing information; we do it about others, and others do it about us. Have you ever given someone else instruction only to find they didn’t do what you wanted at all? We make assumptions that we know what others want, and we also assume they know what we want. Not only is this unproductive, it can sometimes be hurtful as well.

The simple fix is to be open, be curious and ask questions. Ask for clarification!

In this week’s meditation we are encouraged to watch for this in our life, and to be open to a different possibility.

Thank you for listening. Enjoy!

 

This meditation correlates to my current Inspiring Book Transformation Series featuring The Four Agreements. Each month I feature an inspiring and transformative book to guide us in digging deeper into our selves and change our lives. These are all books that have changed my life and I know they can change yours. Find out more about the current book here or sign up to receive emails on upcoming Inspiring Book Transformation Classes.

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As a professional Animal Communicator and Spiritual Practitioner and Minister, I use the wisdom I have learned from all life to create a life I love through deep spiritual practices. This did not happen quickly; I had a lot of rough years being financially broke and in dysfunctional relationships before I was able to understand the wisdom presented in Spirit and Nature and how to connect it to my own life. Then, finally, life started shifting.

Now it’s my mission to help others do the same. I engage the wisdom of ALL life to help people create a life they love using spiritual practices and tools; to guide people into deep spiritual connection with the Divine for a richer, more rewarding life.

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Do You Wish You’d Acted Differently?

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You can’t change the past, but you can move on and free up your energy for greater things.

Having compassion and forgiving ourselves is key to moving out of a story that we wish never happened. Sometimes our best intentions don’t play out the way we’d like, and it’s impossible to take back words or actions we wish we’d never committed. No matter what has happened. we are allowed to move on with our lives.

This meditation will help you release that story so it doesn’t hold you back anymore.

Thank you for listening. Enjoy.

Could you use a little help going deeper or getting unstuck? Karen works with people that are ready to move forward in their lives. Karen learned the power, joy and magic of committed spiritual practice and now helps others to as well. If you’d like to talk about it, sign up for a Spiritual Strategy Session with Karen here.